Monday, 20 April 2015

The 15 diseases of leadership according to Pope Francis.

The 15 diseases of leadership according to Pope Francis

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From the Harvard Business Review, April 14, 2015, by Gary Hamel
pope francisPope Francis has made no secret of his intention to radically reform the administrative structures of the Catholic church, which he regards as insular, imperious, and bureaucratic. He understands that in a hyper-kinetic world, inward-looking and self-obsessed leaders are a liability.
Last year, just before Christmas, the Pope addressed the leaders of the Roman Curia — the Cardinals and other officials who are charged with running the church’s byzantine network of administrative bodies. The Pope’s message to his colleagues was blunt. Leaders are susceptible to an array of debilitating maladies, including arrogance, intolerance, myopia, and pettiness. When those diseases go untreated, the organization itself is enfeebled. To have a healthy church, we need healthy leaders.
Through the years, I’ve heard dozens of management experts enumerate the qualities of great leaders. Seldom, though, do they speak plainly about the “diseases” of leadership. The Pope is more forthright. He understands that as human beings we have certain proclivities — not all of them noble. Nevertheless, leaders should be held to a high standard, since their scope of influence makes their ailments particularly infectious.
The Catholic Church is a bureaucracy: a hierarchy populated by good-hearted, but less-than-perfect souls. It that sense, it’s not much different than your organization. That’s why the Pope’s counsel is relevant to leaders everywhere.
With that in mind, I spent a couple of hours translating the Pope’s address into something a little closer to corporate-speak. (I don’t know if there’s a prohibition on paraphrasing Papal pronouncements, but since I’m not Catholic, I’m willing to take the risk.)
Herewith, then, the Pope (more or less):
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The leadership team is called constantly to improve and to grow in rapport and wisdom, in order to carry out fully its mission. And yet, like any body, like any human body, it is also exposed to diseases, malfunctioning, infirmity. Here I would like to mention some of these “[leadership] diseases.” They are diseases and temptations which can dangerously weaken the effectiveness of any organization.
  1. The disease of thinking we are immortal, immune, or downright indispensable, [and therefore] neglecting the need for regular check-ups. A leadership team which is not self-critical, which does not keep up with things, which does not seek to be more fit, is a sick body. A simple visit to the cemetery might help us see the names of many people who thought they were immortal, immune, and indispensable! It is the disease of those who turn into lords and masters, who think of themselves as above others and not at their service. It is the pathology of power and comes from a superiority complex, from a narcissism which passionately gazes at its own image and does not see the face of others, especially the weakest and those most in need. The antidote to this plague is humility; to say heartily, “I am merely a servant. I have only done what was my duty.”
  2. Another disease is excessive busyness. It is found in those who immerse themselves in work and inevitably neglect to “rest a while.” Neglecting needed rest leads to stress and agitation. A time of rest, for those who have completed their work, is necessary, obligatory and should be taken seriously: by spending time with one’s family and respecting holidays as moments for recharging.
  3. Then there is the disease of mental and [emotional] “petrification.”It is found in leaders who have a heart of stone, the “stiff-necked;” in those who in the course of time lose their interior serenity, alertness and daring, and hide under a pile of papers, turning into paper pushers and not men and women of compassion. It is dangerous to lose the human sensitivity that enables us to weep with those who weep and to rejoice with those who rejoice! Because as time goes on, our hearts grow hard and become incapable of loving all those around us. Being a humane leader means having the sentiments of humility and unselfishness, of detachment and generosity.
  4. The disease of excessive planning and of functionalism. When a leader plans everything down to the last detail and believes that with perfect planning things will fall into place, he or she becomes an accountant or an office manager. Things need to be prepared well, but without ever falling into the temptation of trying to eliminate spontaneity and serendipity, which is always more flexible than any human planning. We contract this disease because it is easy and comfortable to settle in our own sedentary and unchanging ways.
  5. The disease of poor coordination. Once leaders lose a sense of community among themselves, the body loses its harmonious functioning and its equilibrium; it then becomes an orchestra that produces noise: its members do not work together and lose the spirit of camaraderie and teamwork. When the foot says to the arm: ‘I don’t need you,’ or the hand says to the head, ‘I’m in charge,’ they create discomfort and parochialism.
  6. There is also a sort of “leadership Alzheimer’s disease.” It consists in losing the memory of those who nurtured, mentored and supported us in our own journeys. We see this in those who have lost the memory of their encounters with the great leaders who inspired them; in those who are completely caught up in the present moment, in their passions, whims and obsessions; in those who build walls and routines around themselves, and thus become more and more the slaves of idols carved by their own hands.
  7. The disease of rivalry and vainglory. When appearances, our perks, and our titles become the primary object in life, we forget our fundamental duty as leaders—to “do nothing from selfishness or conceit but in humility count others better than ourselves.” [As leaders, we must] look not only to [our] own interests, but also to the interests of others.
  8. The disease of existential schizophrenia. This is the disease of those who live a double life, the fruit of that hypocrisy typical of the mediocre and of a progressive emotional emptiness which no [accomplishment or] title can fill. It is a disease which often strikes those who are no longer directly in touch with customers and “ordinary” employees, and restrict themselves to bureaucratic matters, thus losing contact with reality, with concrete people.
  9. The disease of gossiping, grumbling, and back-biting. This is a grave illness which begins simply, perhaps even in small talk, and takes over a person, making him become a “sower of weeds” and in many cases, a cold-blooded killer of the good name of colleagues. It is the disease of cowardly persons who lack the courage to speak out directly, but instead speak behind other people’s backs. Let us be on our guard against the terrorism of gossip!
  10. The disease of idolizing superiors. This is the disease of those who court their superiors in the hope of gaining their favor. They are victims of careerism and opportunism; they honor persons [rather than the larger mission of the organization]. They think only of what they can get and not of what they should give; small-minded persons, unhappy and inspired only by their own lethal selfishness. Superiors themselves can be affected by this disease, when they try to obtain the submission, loyalty and psychological dependency of their subordinates, but the end result is unhealthy complicity.
  11. The disease of indifference to others. This is where each leader thinks only of himself or herself, and loses the sincerity and warmth of [genuine] human relationships. This can happen in many ways: When the most knowledgeable person does not put that knowledge at the service of less knowledgeable colleagues, when you learn something and then keep it to yourself rather than sharing it in a helpful way with others; when out of jealousy or deceit you take joy in seeing others fall instead of helping them up and encouraging them.
  12. The disease of a downcast face. You see this disease in those glum and dour persons who think that to be serious you have to put on a face of melancholy and severity, and treat others—especially those we consider our inferiors—with rigor, brusqueness and arrogance. In fact, a show of severity and sterile pessimism are frequently symptoms of fear and insecurity. A leader must make an effort to be courteous, serene, enthusiastic and joyful, a person who transmits joy everywhere he goes. A happy heart radiates an infectious joy: it is immediately evident! So a leader should never lose that joyful, humorous and even self-deprecating spirit which makes people amiable even in difficult situations. How beneficial is a good dose of humor! …
  13. The disease of hoarding. This occurs when a leader tries to fill an existential void in his or her heart by accumulating material goods, not out of need but only in order to feel secure. The fact is that we are not able to bring material goods with us when we leave this life, since “the winding sheet does not have pockets” and all our treasures will never be able to fill that void; instead, they will only make it deeper and more demanding. Accumulating goods only burdens and inexorably slows down the journey!
  14. The disease of closed circles, where belonging to a clique becomes more powerful than our shared identity. This disease too always begins with good intentions, but with the passing of time it enslaves its members and becomes a cancer which threatens the harmony of the organization and causes immense evil, especially to those we treat as outsiders. “Friendly fire” from our fellow soldiers, is the most insidious danger. It is the evil which strikes from within. As it says in the bible, “Every kingdom divided against itself is laid waste.”
  15. Lastly: the disease of extravagance and self-exhibition. This happens when a leader turns his or her service into power, and uses that power for material gain, or to acquire even greater power. This is the disease of persons who insatiably try to accumulate power and to this end are ready to slander, defame and discredit others; who put themselves on display to show that they are more capable than others. This disease does great harm because it leads people to justify the use of any means whatsoever to attain their goal, often in the name of justice and transparency! Here I remember a leader who used to call journalists to tell and invent private and confidential matters involving his colleagues. The only thing he was concerned about was being able to see himself on the front page, since this made him feel powerful and glamorous, while causing great harm to others and to the organization.

Friends, these diseases are a danger for every leader and every organization, and they can strike at the individual and the community levels.

BUILDING YOUR CHOIR.

 
                         
                                               5 STEPS TO BUILD YOUR CHOIR
                              MAINTAINING A HEALTHY AND GROWING CHOIR
            By OGUNYEMI OLAKUNLE. Organist/Music Director COP, Lagos. 20-04-2015.

If there is any group that has contributed to my development and growth in life, it is no other group than the CHOIR. I joined the St. Paul's Anglican Church Choir, Lebi, Okitipupa in Ondo State at an early age. I had the foundation of my knowledge in music at the same church. Did most of my music exploits in Lagos and little in Ogun state. A member of the RSCM, England.

 Majority of what I will be saying here today are products of my past experiences as a choir member, singer, music director, choir master and an organist. I am sure after reading this you will be better enlightened.

It is said that a healthy church is a growing church. Likewise, a healthy choir is a growing choir. The larger the group, the more potential impact the choir has. Set a goal to have a BIG choir.
How big is BIG? Simple—larger than your choir is right now!


1. RECRUIT, RECRUIT, RECRUIT!
You must constantly recruit new choir members. Not only should you personally invite prospective members to "come and sit in on a couple of practices," but you should also train your choir members to help you recruit new members. Some
people are a little threatened by the “expert” choir director asking them to join the choir; however, if their friend asks them to come, they may be more
willing to try it. At some rehearsal sessions I write the names of choir prospects on the board and refer to it as "The Hit List." I want all the choir
members to help me recruit these
prospects into the choir.
Watch your congregation for folks who
participate enthusiastically in the
congregational singing and meet the
leadership requirements you have
established for choir members. These are
your best prospects for gaining new choir
members.

2. RETAIN THOSE YOU HAVE
If you add three new choir members this month but four drop out, then you have a net loss of one. You must have methods for keeping folks in the choir. The people most likely to drop out of the choir are the folks with average musical ability
who come to the mistaken conclusion that their presence makes no difference
in the choir.
This is a lie from Satan that you must
overcome regularly. Communicate to
your choir members how important each
voice is. Use cards, emails, and phone
calls to send words of encouragement
and thanks for their efforts in choir.
Everyone needs to feel appreciated.
Remind your choir members regularly
that it does not take great voices to build
a great choir. It takes average voices
dedicated and faithful to a great God!

3. RECORD INDIVIDUAL ATTENDANCE
Just because you have someone’s name on a list and they show up occasionally certainly does not mean you have a choir member. Set some minimum attendance standards for choir membership.
Record attendance in a way that is  visible to the choir members. You can call roll or check off sign in sheets so that the members know if they are absent they will be missed.

4. RESPOND TO PERSONAL NEEDS
The choir is a small group within the larger church family. Therefore, it can be a “need-meeter” like a Sunday school class or Bible study group. Show personal interest in your choir members by taking
prayer requests and praying for them. You can also show personal interest by having an occasional special practice combined with a potluck supper. We have these regularly and call them “Choir
Chow-downs.” We have a great time at these events and get an extra rehearsal at no extra charge.

5. BUILD A BIG CHOIR!
Always look for new choir members. It takes time to build a strong choir that will last. Share your vision of a larger and more effective choir with the choir you have now. Ask the choir members to
pray that additional people will be added to the music ministry.
 
This article will be incomplete if I fail to say something on you establishing discipline and standard in your choir. It is very important. A good and performing choir is a disciplined choir. I think I will find a day to write on choir discipline. To this point, I want to say a big thank you to you for going through this write-up. God bless you. Go and apply this................................................................

MY LOVE IS YOUR LOVE

"My Love Is Your Love"

(clap your hands, yall its alright....)
If tomorrow is judgement day (sing mommy)
And I'm standin' on the front line
And the Lord ask me what I did with my life
I will say I spent it with you

If I wake up in WW 3
I see destruction and poverty
And I feel like I want to go home
It's okay if your commin' with me

Chorus:

Cause your love is my love
And my love is your love
It would take an eternity to break us
And the chains of Amistad couldn't hold us

If I lose my fame and fortune
And I'm homeless on the street
And I'm sleepin' in Grand Central Station
It's okay if you're sleepin' with me

As the years they pass us by
We stay young through each other's eyes
And no matter how old we get
It's okay as long as I got you babe

[Chorus]

If I should die this very day
Don't cry, cause on earth we wasn't meant to stay
And no matter what people say
I'll be waiting for you after judgement day

[Chorus]

Thanks to you Withney.


You will forever be remembered beautiful pop queen and one of the greatest voice to have grace the earth. 

Saturday, 18 April 2015

WHAT I DESIRE IN A WOMAN

WHAT I DESIRES IN A WOMAN

I could still remember vividly that faithful Saturday evening in my uncles house in Lagos. I spent three months there. Efe, my neighbour and friend, ran into my room screaming, “ A man just dropped me off. He said he liked my dressing and that I am beautiful. But, the truth is that I was very uncomfortable that I started shivering and stuttering when he asked me questions. I was not confident at all and I bet he noticed it,” she spluttered. Efe is from Delta State. She is beautiful, cooks very well and over-dresses but lacked self-confidence. Her physical appearance alone easily attracts men to her. But when she gets into a relationship, after two months, it comes to an end. It became a big bother to her. Sometimes she weeps. In fact, she concluded that she was being haunted from her village. It was that bad.
But the question was, why do these men run away in such a short time ? Well, different stroke for different folks they say.
Every woman wants to be the kind of woman that men talk about, admire and chase. We all want to be appreciated, respected and admired for our existence, appearance, personality and accomplishments.
But, women forget that there are different things men look out for in a woman they intend to settle down with. For this reason, it is not easy to figure out what men really desire. But as the saying goes, one mans meat is another mans poison. Regardless of this, there are standard things that every man looks for in a woman.
So what do men really desire in women ?

Be yourself
You should not pretend to be who you are not or who people want you to be. Men do not like women who are not real, it is a big turn off.
Have self-confidence.
A woman with self-confidence easily attracts a man to herself. A woman who feels so good about herself is a woman most likely with a good head on her shoulders, rational, focused and has good direction in life.
Every man would want to boast about his woman among his friends. A man has no fears when he knows that his woman is self-confident because she can represent him anywhere in his absence.

Proper dress sense
How much your outfit costs does not mean anything to a man. What matters to him is that you are properly and well dressed. A man will treat you with love and respect because you treat yourself as such when you dress well. You need to be in tune with the latest fashion and know what your man likes you wearing. This will not only draw men to you, but you will also feel good about yourself. It is good to dress sexy, but moderate and classy as well and always leave something to the imagination.

Intellectual capacity
Being desirable to a man is more than just having a pretty face or attractive figure. Most men want to be with an intelligent woman they can have meaningful discussion or talk with on any issue, who will advise them well, give them new ideas- a woman who they will learn from and who they can also teach. Be a total package and physically good looking with intellectual capacity to bambuzzle him.

Exhibit your feminine side
There is a soft side to every woman- sweet, romantic, loving and caring. It does not mean you are weak when you show off these sides of you to your man.